THE WOMAN’S CHOICE OF POSITION

Posted by admin on March 20, 2009 under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction | Be the First to Comment

• Can she move so that stimulation remains good?

• Does it allow her to see her partner?

• Is it comfortable during the latter stages of pregnancy?

• Can she or her partner reach her clitoris easily?

• Does it allow her to kiss her partner and hold him close?

• Will it stimulate her G-spot?

• Is it comfortable?

• Does it allow her partner to reach her breasts?

• When in the position, can she reach down and touch her partner’s scrotum?

• Is it good for cuddling?

• Does it allow good skin contact?

• Is it good for conception?

• What sort of penetration does it allow – shallow or deep – and is it the sort she wants?

• Is it good for learning sex with a new or shy partner?

• Does it stimulate the back or front vaginal wall?

• Does it allow her to take a dominant (or submissive) role?

• Can she look into her partner’s eyes and speak to him?

Often, when couples whose sex life has gone off the boil consult me about making improvements, one of the first questions I ask is whether they vary the way they make love. Many of these couples have tied themselves to a single position for lovemaking, and it has simply become boring. The missionary position with the man on top and the woman underneath is most commonly used and, for some couples, never varied. (It is so-named because it was forcibly advocated by missionaries who took their faith to “heathen” or “uncivilized” peoples.) For many years the church tolerated this position and no other, since it was thought to be the one in which the woman would almost certainly be fertilized. This rigidly adhered-to tradition allowed the man always to adopt the dominant role during sexual intercourse and to experience most or all of the pleasure of sex.

But between consenting lovers, all coital positions are perfectly normal and legitimate, and everyone’s sex lives will certainly be enlivened by a little adventure and experimentation.